Do entrepreneurs take precedence over relationships

Love at work: what to do

Many people meet their partners at work. And yet it is often frowned upon to go out with a colleague. Some companies even have explicit policies against it.

So what do you do when you've flirted with a coworker and are considering a relationship? Should what is right from a professional standpoint take precedence over what is best for your personal life?

There are very good reasons why employees fall in love with each other. After all, you spend a lot of time at work and with colleagues. The more familiar people become with each other, the more likely it is that you will attracted to each other feels.

If you are interested in a colleague, you should think about the following:

1. Be aware of the risks

Everything is wonderful at the beginning of a love affair. But of course there is a possibility that the Relationship not working and that there are hurt feelings on one or both sides. Then it becomes difficult to continue to work together as colleagues. In addition, the team could suffer from this situation in the event of interpersonal tension.

There are also potential ones Conflicts of Interest. When you go out with a teammate, do you put the interests of the team or the individual first? Some coworkers may think that you give preferential treatment to the partner of your choice or vice versa. Yours Professionalism could be called into question.

2. Have the best of intentions

If you are aware of these risks and still want to intensify the relationship with your colleague, your intentions matter.

After all, your coworkers' reactions reflect what they think and think of your romance.

If you are looking for a relationship to be in your To advance your company or to promote your career, this is perceived as negative by your colleagues.

On the other hand, your coworkers will show understanding of your flirtation if they feel like you are yourself really fell in love and the two of you are a good match.

3. Know your company's policy

Many companies forbid their employees from talking to colleagues, suppliers, customers or subcontractors to agree or require certain disclosures. This is one of the most important things you need to do research before starting a relationship.

Even if you don't understand the reasons for existing regulations, you still cannot ignore them. If you've already broken a policy, tell the truth as soon as possible. The longer you wait, the worse the consequences can be.

Regulations can always be repealed or changed. Sometimes new rules develop too, like the #MeToo movement.

At Facebook and Google, for example, new guidelines have been set for the relationships between employees.

4. Stay away from the boss and employees

Whatever happens, do not get involved with your boss or with an employee.

This is where the conflicts of interest are most pronounced. Yours Objectivity is called into questionwhen you need to give your relationship a performance rating. Otherwise, you don't want people to think that you are being given preferential treatment because you are having a flirt with your manager. Your own can do that Undermine confidence and the morale of the team violate.

In some companies, corporate policy is very clearly regulated. Anyone who gets involved in a romance with a subordinate person in the workplace has to leave. This is shown by the example of former McDonald’s boss Steve Easterbrook.

A boss-employee romance can happen, and sometimes these relationships work. If you are considering that, you should take action immediately: Either you change the boss or you lead another team.

5. Don't hide

It is important to be open talk about your relationship with coworkers and the boss. If you go on the offensive and address everyone directly, then there will be no uncomfortable situation. The likelihood is high that your colleagues will be happy for you. But if you keep it a secret, they'll find out anyway and whisper behind your back.

Hold yours Unveiling simple and straightforward. You could say something like, “We had a couple of dates, but I'm not sure what will happen or what. You will surely understand that I do not want to go into more detail about our private life. "

Make sure that you Talk to your manager about the relationship first. Then the boss can decide how to tell the team and whether you can continue to work in a team with your love affair.

If she Human Resources is informed or not depends on company policy.

6. Set boundaries

If you continue to work in a department with your partner, it is imperative that you remain professional. Set boundaries together with your partner and renounces affections at work. As uncomfortable and unromantic as this conversation may be, you have to talk about how you can deal with each other on the job.

The tensions at work or in the relationship are supposed to eventually ease up do not affect your professionalism.

7. When you split up

Not every relationship can work. And if you do decide to break up, you should be prepared.

You don't have to hide here either. Better go on the offensive and talk to me open to the team about the breakup. Make it clear, however, that you don't want to talk about your privacy any further.

After a breakup, try at work be as professional and objective as possible. Avoid speaking negatively about your relationship or you will be seen in a bad light.

This article was written in English and was published on 14.02.2019 by Ami Gallo on hbr.orgreleased. We have translated it for you so that we can exchange ideas with our readers on relevant topics!

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