Where should children grow up

Upbringing: How to Make Children Happy

Give the child unconditional love every day
Children need to know that they are loved without any ifs or buts. You should feel every day: Mommy and Daddy love me, even if I haven't tidied my room, wrote a double in math or pushed my little brother. A child who is sure of the love of his or her parents can cope better with the pitfalls of everyday life. It knows: Whatever happens - my parents stick with me. They won't let me down, and with their help everything will be fine.

Accept the child for who they are
Some children are shy and have to be carefully introduced to new situations, others are whirlwinds and their enthusiasm has to be slowed down at times. Some are silent, others talk like a waterfall. It is important that parents recognize these peculiarities and align their upbringing ideals to them - but check them again and again. Then children feel taken seriously and feel good.

Let the child go their own way and sometimes be alone
On the way to independence, personal experience counts. For example, going to school alone or having the Reisli with a colleague. Children also need opportunities to retreat and time to themselves, without their parents. On their own they experience a “flow”, as psychologists say, the absolutely delightful feeling of taking off in an activity.

Do not immediately fulfill every wish
Anticipation is the greatest joy. The chance of fulfilling the longings leads to a positive serenity. Research says: "We are always happiest when we find something we are longingly looking for." Small side effect: the stamina of the children is strengthened and rewarded.

Have confidence in the child
Children have to explore their limits and be able to try something out themselves without being stopped. Courageous deeds and a sense of achievement make children flourish.

Cuddle the child
Tenderness in words and deeds is good for children. Parents have to find the right dosage at every age. Over the years, children evade physical contact. But an encouraging look or a pat on the back still works wonders.

Laugh together as often as possible
Laughter makes everything easier. Happiness researchers show that children laugh up to 400 times and adults only 15 times a day. Smiling and laughing support concentration, strengthen resilience and stimulate the imagination.

Encourage and challenge the child
Support the child's strengths. Set small tasks. Because whoever takes on duties on a regular basis feels valuable. This can be helping around the house, keeping daily or weekly duties or visiting the grandparents.

Get exercise and a healthy diet
Children need a lot of exercise for their development. This keeps the body healthy and helps develop intelligence. Vitamins and minerals should of course not be missing on the nutritional plan.

Watch out for recurring rituals
Whether it's Christmas or a warm chocolate as a consolation after the spanked math work: every family maintains its own rituals. They give children a feeling of security, belonging and happiness.